The Role of Sexuality in Dzogchen and Tantra

April 13, 2026

The purpose of sexuality in the teachings that I'm offering of Dzogchen and Tantra.

Sexuality is a means to experience our natural state at a deeper level, a very incarnate level, within the physical body.

Why is that?

Because when we are having a sexual relationship or cultivating the sexual energy that brings you towards the physical orgasm, at one moment just before the pre-orgasmic expression, or release, there is a point where you are directly experiencing your natural state or, let's say, meeting with God within.

In this teaching we are becoming aware of this space or state and developing it.

First of all, we are becoming aware and present within this space, and recognizing this space of pre-physical orgasmic energy, this space of alertness, awareness, pure bliss, and we could also say Love.

At the highest level, it is very present, and we can really touch it directly, in the sense, experience it directly.

When we are having casual sex, we are not aware of this space. So we are developing practices, especially in Vajrayana and higher Tantras, where you are working with the sexual energy and driving this life force within the central channel. You come to some space of a different type of bliss, where you are present in it and you are aware of what is going on. You are able to see the benefit.

It's like meeting with God within. The practices are helping you to recognize this space. So when you do are in a Tantric union, in the yab-yum with your partner, and then you are coming to this point, you're trying to preserve that space, in the sense that if you are having a physical orgasm and release, then you lose this space. So the ultimate is not having a physical orgasm, is to be in a pre-orgasmic moment. And then you experience another type of orgasm there. It's like total satisfaction, in the sense that you are fully nourished by your being, because you feel this tremendous bliss, you are totally alert, 100% shining, your heart is opening more and more, if you are able to stay in this space. And that's what we are developing in the teaching. And by developing this, then it helps you to integrate even more in daily life.

This moment is one of the hardest things to integrate in life. Because of how easily you fall into the downfall of the pleasure and put in your energy and mind into the sexual organs, and the pleasure that is there, and then you lose everything at the end.

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